May every mother, daughter and father talk like this.
After Tami saw Matt Saracen buying condoms“Don’t you smirk at me right now, I am very upset! You are not allowed to have sex! You’re fifteen years old! It’s not just one body part going into another body part, and the fact that you think it is makes me real clear on the fact that you really are not ready for this. And I need you to be able to hear that. I need you to be able to hear me say that to you. Let me tell you what the big deal is. Let me tell you what can happen. What can happen is that you can be hurt. And you can become degraded. And you can become hard and you can become cynical and I don’t want that to happen to you. This is something that’s special. It’s something that’s meant for people who are in love. And you can wait. I want you to be able to talk to me about it.”
Eric + Tami waiting for Julie to come home
"You know you and I have the exact same amount of experience being parents. We've been doing this job the same number of years and months and days as each other. And the truth of it is we just don't have any control. You know, for the most part, we're just winging it. And I'm…I don't…I don't know what to do in this situation. But I'll tell you what, the most important thing to me is that my daughter be able to talk to me. A girl is
entitled to that with her mother. My mother used to tell me I was going to go to hell if a guy ever even touched me and you know that didn't work and I'm sure as hell not going to do that to Julie."
After Eric found out Julie had sex with Matt already
(To Matt)
"I know your father is in Iraq but if he were here we'd agree on one thing,: Women are
to be respected," Eric says. And then he pauses. "That is my daughter," he adds.
After Tami found out Julie had sex with Matt already Later, when Tami first broaches the subject with Julie, Julie glumly asks what her punishment is. "Your punishment is you have to have a talk with me," says her mom.
Tami: "So, umm. Do you love Matt?"
Julie: "Mom, I don't want to talk about it.
Tami: "Hon, that's the conversation."
Julie: "Yes, we're using birth control."
Julie: "Yes, I know how to use them."
Tami: "You, know you have to use them every time, because you know sometimes boys try to tell you..."
Julie: "Yeah, Matt's really good about it."
Tami: "And you know, just cause you're having sex this one time doesn't mean that you have to all the time, and you know if it ever feels like he's taking you for granted, or you're not enjoying it you can stop anytime...and if you ever break up with Matt it's not like you have sex with the next boy necessarily."
Tami: "Because I wanted you to wait...but that's just because I want to protect you because I love you, and I want to make sure nothing bad ever happens to you. And I always want to you to always be able to talk to me even if it's
about something so hard like this."
[Tami shakes head, hugs Julie.]